Mum praises charity after baby's death
PUBLISHED: 09:30 27 July 2014
A MOTHER has vowed to help the charity who supported her when she was 18 and buried her first child.
‘THERE is nothing normal about burying your own child.’
Those are the words of Natalie Roberts, who was only 18 when her seven-week old daughter Ellie died suddenly.
Nearly seven years have passed since and Natalie is determined to help the charity who turned her life around.
Ellie’s birth in October 2007 had not been a normal one. Natalie’s contractions were never less than three minutes apart and Ellie swallowed fluid while being born.
That fluid is believed to have contributed to Ellie’s death but for the most part, she appeared healthy, a small chest complaint aside.
However on November 29, Natalie awoke to find her beautiful baby daughter dead.
She said: “I thought she had slept for a long a time. When I picked her up she was stone cold and I dropped her on my bed.”
Sudden infant death syndrome – or cot death as it is commonly known – claims the lives of about 200 babies every year in the UK.
Natalie, just like her mother and grandmother, had lost her first-born child and at a young age she did not know where to turn. Ellie’s father had left her when she was 20 weeks pregnant.
Natalie said: “When I was young I didn’t know anything about cot death until it had happened. I want young mums, and older ones, to be more aware.”
She has a four-year-old daughter Jessica and has moved from Liverpool to Weston Village in the intervening years, but there is one charity she knows she has to thank for getting her life back on track.
The Lullaby Trust provides support for grieving parents, including a buddy scheme where people who have gone through the experience previously can give advice.
Natalie said: “When I was pregnant (with Jessica), I spoke to them as I was paranoid it would happen again.
“I did try to self harm a few times (soon after Ellie died). I tried to overdose but the phone calls stopped me.
“Now I have Jessica I’m fine but back then I was unstable. Those people could talk me out of it.”
Natalie has completed a half marathon for the charity, but this month set up a fundraising page to support Lullaby. She is also keen on organising a charity walk in the coming months.
Natalie, now aged 25, said it gets easier with time talking about Ellie but admits the anniversary of her death is particularly difficult.
She said: “It’s hard to lose a kid. The worst thing you could go through. But if it was not for my family, Jessica and Lullaby, I don’t think I’d be here.”
* To make a donation to The Lullaby Trust, visit www.gofundme.com/b2ge1c